WHEN I WAS IN HIGH SCHOOL, IF YOUR HAIR WASN’T STRAIGHT YOU WERE BULLIED. NOBODY WANTED THAT “NAPPY” TARGET ON THEIR BACK. ONE OF MY CLASSMATES DIDN’T HAVE A RELAXER AND HER GRANDMOTHER WOULDN’T LET HER PRESS HER HAIR SO SHE WAS FORCED TO WEAR HER HAIR NATURAL. Y’ALL, SHE WAS TEASED NON-STOP. NAPPY HEAD (HER NAME HERE) WAS HER NICK NAME. HER HAIR WAS THICK AND GORGE BUT AT THAT TIME I COULDN’T RECOGNIZE THE FABULOSITY OF IT MYSELF. I WAS LIKE ANY OTHER KID WHO THOUGHT LONG, BONE STRAIGHT HAIR WAS THE WAY TO GO. WE WERE FRIENDS AND I TRIED TO ENCOURAGE HER NOT TO ALLOW THE NEGATIVE COMMENTS TO BOTHER HER. I’M SURE SHE WAS THINKING, “HEFFER, THAT’S EASY FOR YOU TO SAY WITH YOUR GREASY HOT-COMBED HAIR.”

TIMES HAVE CHANGED A GREAT DEAL AND MANY GIRLS HAVE BIG CHOPPED IN HIGH SCHOOL. I DON’T KNOW IF I WOULD HAVE HAD THE KAHUNAS. YOU HAVE TO A BRAVE, BOLD AND COURAGEOUS. MY ADVICE IS TO START A CONVERSATION AMONGST YOUR FRIENDS ON YOUR DECISION TO GO NATURAL. TELL THEM THE REASONS WHY YOU HAVE CHOSEN THIS PATH AND HOW YOUR HAIR WILL BENEFIT. YOU MAY EVEN GET SOME OF THEM TO JOIN YOU. IF NOT, STILL CONTINUE ON ON YOUR JOURNEY TO REACH YOUR GOAL. IF YOU WANT YOUR HAIR TO BE COMPLETELY COVERED DURING THE GROWTH PROCESS, WEAR BRAIDS. THERE ARE A VARIETY TO CHOOSE FROM; KINKY TWISTS, SENEGALESE TWISTS AND BOX BRAIDS TO NAME A FEW. YOU CAN WEAR THE BRAIDS ANYWHERE FROM 1-3 MONTHS THEN ALLOW YOUR HAIR TO REST IN BETWEEN FOR A WEEK OR SO. MAKE SURE YOU DEEP CONDITION YOUR HAIR, REVITALIZE IT AND TRIM IF NEEDED. IF YOU WANT TO WEAR YOUR OWN HAIR, STYLES LIKE ROD CURLS, PIN CURLS AND BRAID-OUTS ARE GREAT OPTIONS. MAKE SURE YOU MOISTURIZE YOUR HAIR WITH WATER, A LEAVE-IN CONDITIONER OR MOISTURIZING SPRITZ AND SEAL IT WITH AN OIL. OH, AND HEAD BAND AND SCARFS ARE A GREAT WAY TO HIDE AND LAY DOWN YOUR EDGES. DON’T EDGES ALWAYS SEEM TO BE YOUR BIGGEST CONCERN EVEN WHILE RELAXED. CHILE, I WANTED MY EDGES TO ALWAYS BE SMOOTH. THANK GOD I STILL HAVE SOME.

THE MOST IMPORTANT THING IS TO KEEP YOUR FOCUS ON YOUR GOAL IN SPITE OF WHAT OTHER PEOPLE MAY SAY. I RECEIVED NEGATIVITY FROM MY CO-WORKERS BUT I KEEP IT PUSHING. BE PREPARED TO RECEIVE NEGATIVE COMMENTS SO THE BLOWS WON’T HIT YOU AS HARD AND YOU’RE NOT TOTALLY STUNNED. THOSE INDIVIDUALS WHO THROW SHADE ARE IGNORANT TO WHAT GOING NATURAL CAN DO FOR YOUR MIND, BODY AND SPIRIT. SO JUST SAY TO YOURSELF, “THEY DON’T KNOW” AND FORGIVE THEM BEFORE THE WORDS EVEN COME OUT OF THEIR MOUTHS. AND REMEMBER, “DON’T TAKE ANYTHING PERSONALLY. NOTHING OTHERS DO IS BECAUSE OFYOU. WHAT OTHERS SAY  AND DO IS A PROJECTION OF THEIR OWN REALITY, THEIR OWN DREAM. WHEN YOU ARE IMMUNE TO THE OPINION AND ACTIONS OF OTHERS YOU WON’T BE THE VICTIM OF NEEDLESS SUFFERING.” -MIGUEL  RUIZ

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