Let me start off by saying this is such a random post. Get used to it kiddos. Maybe it will help someone. Anyways, if you watched the Grammy’s I’m sure you saw Rihanna is that gorgeous Azzedine Alaïa red dress and maybe you noticed how unbecoming her hairstyle was. In photographs it doesn’t look bad but it looked pretty ratchet on the telly. Folks were really going in on her on Twitter. I saw one tweet that said she needs to go to the hood so she can get a good sew-in. It really wasn’t a good look but I think I’m biased because I prefer to see Rihanna with short hair. I know she is self-conscious about her forehead but I think really long hair isn’t as flattering on women with large foreheads as short hair is. Sounds backwards right? I know most people think if your forehead is big you should try to cover it up but it can actually make the woman’s entire head look larger. Short hair really frames the face and showcases one’s features. Large foreheads are beautiful…a wonderful African attribute. Rihanna looked the most beautiful to me a few years back when she had that fierce short hair cut that was shaved on both sides. Drop dead gorgeous! I also love that short and jet black ‘cut she’s been rockin’ on and off lately. I’m sure if you have a big forehead you’ve been teased but don’t allow someone else’s opinion to affect you. Don’t be afraid to big chop is you have a large forehead. I don’t know why but ’fros look so amazing sitting above an elongated forehead. It looks regal and really beautiful. So I wanted to show comparison pics. Here’s a pic of her from the Grammy’s with longer extensions…
And this is a pic with her pixie cut..
See what I mean? She really looks gorge either way but I wanted to show you ladies who may be in the five head club (I can say that b/c I’m in the big dome club) that you can big chop and rock short hair (twa) and still be just fab. Society teaches us certain features are flaws including dark skin and kinky hair but be careful not to feed into this way of thinking. Put on your earmuffs when you hear this kind of negativity. Many transitioners realize a great deal of people will look at our hair as being unattractive so we analyze ourselves and wonder if we can pull it off in addition to our other “flaws”. Before I went natural I kept saying I wanted to clear my skin first. I have acne prone skin which often leaves discoloration and I didn’t want the shorter hair to draw more attention to the blemishes. I had to let that go and take steps forward to completing my hair journey. We are women so we care a great deal about our appearance but don’t allow one thing stop you. Maybe for you it’s your weight, teeth or crooked nose. If there is something you want to correct, by all means do so but there will always be a reason not to go forward with it and put it off another month or year. Just focus on the reasons you want to go natural. Embrace your “flaws” whether you have butterfly ears or a pronounced forehead. It’s yours just like that kinky hair that is waiting to make an appearance. Natural hair isn’t a flaw it’s perfection.
Check out these African ladies showcasing their proud foreheads..
Are you afraid to big chop because of the size of your forehead or another reason?
Hi. How did you clear your acne? Your skin looks clear to me.
I haven’t. It’s a work in progress. I think I’ll make a post about that soon. I’m using the Clarisonic and the Personal Microdermabrasion right now.
You spelled Rihanna’s name wrong!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Thanks! I googled it and that’s what popped up…I think I need to stop foolin’ with Bing lol
I have a 5 head and did a big chop two months ago. I personally don’t like short hair on me though only because I have a round face and I think longer hair makes my face look slimmer and also more youthful. Rhianna does look best with the short cuts in my opinion because she is a very pretty girl. To me it depends on your head shape big forehead or not.
I’m sure you look bootiful Lexy! Congrats on big chopping!! *does cabbage patch*
So I believe that God steered me to watch your YouTube video just to see the link for this special article. I’ve been planning to do my BC soon, I’m a couple of weeks shy of a year and I personally feel like I’m ready to do it but I keep second guessing myself due to my forehead and how I will look and what other people will think about me. I know that it will grow back but I’m just afraid that I’ll look ugly or unattractive. I really wanna go for it and after reading this, it’s given me a lot more motivation to do so. I hope that I don’t keep changing my mind. But this definitely really helped…thank you!
Yay!!! Good luck on your big chop!!:)
I have a huge forehead (thanks dad) but just as BriA said “I can’t change my skull” so I go forehead first out into the world and embrace it. I was addicted to flat ironing my hair…everyday, it was horrible. My last perm was Feb 12′ and my last flat iron was Nov 12′ and I am so happy with how my hair has grown just in this short time!
I had to get a lot of my heat damaged hair/perm cut off but it was worth it…I try to part my hair on a diagonal cause when I part down the middle it’s like a bowling alley. Other than that I would rather show my huge forehead then have scraggly hair that would NOT grow!
Loved this post…
Danielle
I’m actually in an all out BATTLE with myself over my forehead and how to style my hair around. Half of me wants to do the big chop and the other half of me is afraid my forehead will come out lookin even bigger than it already does! Personally, I think the trick is always to make sure your hair has volume on the highest part of your head (no matter how short or long it is), so that the proportions look even. That’s the main reason why Rihanna looks so much better with short hair! Short on the sides, high on the top!!
That’s a great tip!! Thanks for sharing!
I just got my BC today and let me tell you I have a big forehead! I used to teased in school about it, called “five-head”, the whole nine yards! But as I got older I learned to embrace it and realize that I’m beautiful no matter what! I initially had fears about my head with short hair, but since I’ve chopped I’ve gotten sooo many compliments. It takes some time to be 100% comfortable in your own skin and I’m still not all the way there, but it feels damn good when you start making those steps :)
Lol… Chime I’m sorry but you’re right… Rihanna and long hair do not go together at least when her forehead is front and center!! It’s just not as becoming as her shorter styles? Take for instance the new host on 106&Park, I think her name is Paigion (not sure if I spelled that right!). She is a beautiful girl, but her forehead is pretty large. She conceals it by wearing bangs. I have yet to see her with hair away from her forehead. Maybe because she is aware of this and is self conscious. As women we all have our insecurities, but we also know how to conceal and keep it moving. The first step is acknowledging the flaw, and then finding ways to conceal it while accentuating other features of your body. I have an issue with back fat lol, so I tend to where more dolman styled shirts and billowy tops that have volume. This enhances my waist line and bottom so I look more proportional. Hey ladies, we gotta work with what we got lol!!!
Very true! You have to choose to embrace it or conceal it. I always say I’m a hip-less monster lol so I find ways to not look so narrow at the bottom. It’s definitely about being happy and workin’ with what you got!
Loved It!!!! Awesome post :3 I know that before I did the BC, one of the things that was holding me back other than shrinkage was my weight @_@ I thought how would I look, small head on a big body >..> But eventually I got over that and Bbc’d after 4 months of transitioning and I don’t regret it at all. I still have to work out for my health though.
lol Girl, I was the opposite…I was worried about having a big head and little body after big chopping lol We really stress ourselves out over nothing.
I use to be really self conscious as well until I realized…it’s not like I can change my skull lol – it’s always going to be there no matter what so I may as well embrace it lol
Lol Exactly!
Omg chime i could’ve said it better myself. For years I’ve felt self-conscious about things i was pick on in school about. It wasn’t until i bc’d that i realized that those “flaws” were actually gorgeous. Its funny how i went from wanting long flowing hair to big chopping every few months because i love how i look with it super short. Sorry im rambling buti love your post keep up the good work. You can see for yourself on IG @ESHAMEESH
Sorry i meant couldn’t have
That’s so true. Growing up I used to be self conscious about how full my lips were. Now I wouldn’t trade ‘em in for nothing! lol I’ll check you out on IG!