oVER THE YEARS, I HAVE ENCOUNTERED SEVERAL WOMEN WHO SAY THEY DESIRE TO GO NATURAL BUT THEY LIST REASONS WHY THEY CAN’T. THEY SAY THEY WILL NEVER GO NATURAL BECAUSE THEIR HAIR IS WAY TOO NAPPY. WOMEN HAVE ACTUALLY DESCRIBED THEIR HAIR TO ME AS SLAVE HAIR (TYPING THAT MADE ME CRINGE). I BELIEVE GOING NATURAL IS ALL ABOUT EMBRACING AND ACCEPTING YOUR HAIR FOR WHAT IT IS, NAPPY OR FINE TEXTURED. I DO REALIZE SOME WOMEN GO NATURAL BECAUSE TO THEM, IT’S A FAD AND THEY SIMPLY LIKE THE WAY NATURAL HAIR LOOKS BUT MY HOPE IS THAT ALL TRANSITIONERS FALL IN LOVE AND EMBRACE THEIR NATURAL HAIR BY THE END OF THE PROCESS.

WHEN SOMEONE TRANSITIONS FROM RELAXED TO NATURAL HAIR, THEY ARE OFTEN NERVOUS ABOUT HOW THEIR HAIR WILL LOOK ONCE THEY ARE COMPLETELY NATURAL. WILL THEY HAVE AN ABUNDANCE OF CURLS, KINKS, NAPS OR COILS? MOST BLACK WOMEN HAVE BEEN RELAXING FOR SO LONG THEY CAN’T REMEMBER HOW THEIR HAIR LOOKED BEFORE THEY STARTED GETTING THE CHEMICAL TREATMENTS. SOME  WOMEN HOPE THAT THEIR HAIR WILL BE A FINE TEXTURE OR HAVE “GOOD HAIR”. I HAVE HAD WOMEN TELL ME THAT THEY WANTED THEIR HAIR TO LOOK LIKE ALICIA KEYS, A BIRACIAL R&B SINGER WHO’S 3B TYPE HAIR IS A REFLECTION OF HER MIXED RACE. MANY OF THESE WOMEN WILL BE DISAPPOINTED WHEN THEIR HAIR DOESN’T COME OUT AS FINE, CURLY RINGLETS LIKE THE SULTRY SINGER, SO I ENCOURAGE THESE WOMEN TO LOVE THEIR HAIR FOR WHAT IT IS. THIS CAN BE DIFFICULT. MOSTLY DUE TO THE FACT THAT SINCE BIRTH, MANY OF US HAVE LEARNED THAT STRAIGHT HAIR EQUATED BEAUTY AND NAPPY HAIR EQUATED A SINGLE, LONELY LIFE WITH NO MAN IN SIGHT LOL WHEN I DECIDED TO GO NATURAL I PRAYED FOR GOD TO HELP ME TO ACCEPT MY HAIR FOR WHAT IT WAS NO MATTER HOW KINKY, CURLY OR NAPPY IT WAS GOING TO BE. WHEN I TRANSITIONED FROM RELAXED TO NATURAL HAIR, I WOULD OFTEN LOOK AT PICTURES OF NATURAL WOMEN FOR INSPIRATION BUT I HAD TO BE CAREFUL NOT TO ALLOW MYSELF TO “WISH” MY NATURAL HAIR WOULD COME OUT LOOKING LIKE THERE’S. I WANTED TO LOVE MY OWN HAIR AND NOT DESIRE TO HAVE HAIR LIKE ANYONE ELSE. IT’S VERY DAMAGING TO WISH THAT A PART OF YOU WAS COMPLETELY DIFFERENT. ESPECIALLY WANTING TO HAVE HAIR LIKE A RACE THAT YOU ARE NOT APART OF. GOING NATURAL CAN REALLY HELP YOU PUT THINGS INTO PERSPECTIVE. THIS IS THE REASON WHY SO MANY NATURALISTAS HAVE ACCEPTED THEIR BODIES AND OTHER “FLAWS” ABOUT THEMSELVES AFTER THEY ACCEPT THEIR HAIR TEXTURE. IT REALLY IS LIFE-CHANGING FOR SO MANY OF US.

AN AFRICAN AMERICAN WOMAN’S NATURAL HAIR TEXTURE CAN COME IN A VARIETY OF WAYS CONSIDERING OUR GENETIC POOL IS MIXED WITH A VARIETY OF RACES. I BELIEVE ALL NATURAL HAIR IS BEAUTIFUL WHETHER IT IS SUPER FINE AND SILKY CURLS OR NAPPY, KINKY COILS. YOUR HAIR IS TOO NAPPY TO GO NATURAL? ARE YOU TOO BLACK? THERE’S TOO MUCH AFRICAN IN YOUR BLOOD? LET’S IDENTIFY THE HATE THAT WE ARE GIVING OURSELVES. EMBRACE THOSE KINKS GIRL! THEY’RE APART OF WHO YOU ARE. I ENCOURAGE ANY WOMAN WHO IS GOING NATURAL TO TRANSFORM HER MIND AS WELL DURING THE TRANSITION PROCESS. PRAY THAT YOU ACCEPT WHAT GOD HAS GIVEN YOU NATURALLY. GOING NATURAL HAS GIVEN ME AN “ITS MINE SO I LOVE IT” KIND OF ATTITUDE. NO ONES HAIR IS TOO NAPPY TO GO NATURAL. YOU MUST CHANGE YOUR MENTALITY AND DECIDE THAT YOU ARE GOING TO LOVE YOU NO MATTER WHAT.

CHECK OUT THESE NATURALS WITH HAIR MANY WOULD SAY IS “TOO NAPPY”. ALL NATURAL HAIR IS BEAUTIFUL Y’ALL. MARCUS GARVEY SAID IT BEST,

“DON’T REMOVE THE KINKS FORM YOUR HAIR, REMOVE THEM FROM YOUR BRAIN”. #TRUUUUU

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